GRAVENHURST MOURNS LOSS OF BELOVED CYRIL FRY, WHO DIED YESTERDAY AT AGE 96
Mark Clairmont | MuskokaTODAY.com
GRAVENHURST — One of Gravenhurst’s most beloved citizens has died.
Cyril Fry passed away yesterday, Tuesday June 22, at Andy’s Place hospice in Port Carling.
He was 96 and to many admirers he seemed ageless.
His daughter Jill Fry said he “just faded away.”
She said her dad had been in hospital at Bracebridge a few times in the last month “with a few issues.
“And it just wore him right down. He was 96 and even though it was something a younger person could probably deal with — it wasn’t anything big, it wasn’t a terminal disease or anything. He just kind of faded away.”
Fry said her dad had been doing “pretty good until probably the last couple of months.”
She said her mother, Marion, is coping as well as possible with her husband’s loss.
“She’s OK. Mom said they had a great life together. She said: ‘Well, you know, we’ve lived a long life and we’re all old. And I’ll miss him.’ And she shed a few tears. She seems to be OK and it’s a blessing.”
Cyril and Marion Fry were married 74 years and they were the same age. He always joked he married “an older woman.” Her birthday was Jan. 5 and he was born Feb. 14, both in 1926.
The couple were together to the end at the hospital, before Fry was moved yesterday to Hospice Muskoka, where died.
Jill Fry, 65, and her brother, Allastair, 61, were also with their dad in his final hours. Their sister Gretta, 63, lives in Australia and couldn’t get back.
Allastair said he was hoping to move his parents to a retirement home in Aurora any time now, where he and his wife live. But due to his dad’s recent illness that was delayed. However he expects only his mother will be able to live in the new home closer to where his family lives.
Jill Fry said there will be no funeral and only a family interment after.
There will also be no public celebration of life.
She said her mom and dad had requested years ago that there not be anything.
“So we’re going with that.”
Fry said friends and admirers can express their sympathies in the tribute section of Cavill-Turner Funeral home website where there’s a death notice.
And in lieu of flowers people are encouraged to donate to any of the many charitable groups that both Frys were involved with, including the Gravenhurst Archives.
Or in his words: “Perhaps give to some individual you know who needs help.”
“We just said if people wanted to make a donation in Dad’s name to a charity of their choice,” said Jill Fry. “I think people who have some memories of him will have their ideas about things he was associated with.”
She said: “He was very charitable person. He donated to many, many charities over the years. And in a wide range of different areas. He was very good that way.”
Fry, 65, who came home from Calgary last week to help out, said on a personal note: “I remember that he always made life fun for us. We always had a good laugh around the dinner table. He would joke around and so on.
“I think he taught us kids so many things. He was a very knowledgeable man in many ways on a wide variety of topics. So we learned about art and nature and theatre and music. And we travelled and we just had a much richer childhood probably than we would have without him around.”
Cyril Fry was many things. He first came to Gravenhurst in the early 1950s as a chemical engineer at Rubberset, before becoming a science teacher at the Gravenhurst High School in the 1960s.
“He switched to teaching because, I think, he loved to share his knowledge. And that stayed with him through his life. And he loved to talk.”
He had such a vibrant, lively, outgoing personality
Her father, said Fry, was “very community-minded” and involved with a lot of things.
Including helping start the Muskoka Concert Association and the Muskoka Field Naturalists.
And Gravenhurst’s Centennial celebration, which he chaired. And that led to starting the Gravenhurst Archives with his wife Marion. Fry also helped produce several history books on the town with the Archives.
In 2019 he received the Ontario Lieutenant Governor’s Lifetime Achievement Award for Ontario Heritage.
He was a leading citizen whose opinion mattered.
As co-owner of the Gravenhurst News with John Christensen, his Ivory Tower column was a popular read with its combination of humour and opinion.
“He had a lot of opinions on politics and things,” including those that shaped the town in most ways, Fry said.
When he would approach the microphone at public forums the audience would listen closely for his sage advice.
He was involved in a wide number of local organizations, she said, including for years championing fundraising for arthritis.
Former Beechgrove teacher Bruce Dart said today: “It was quite a shock, even though how old he was. He was quite a Gravenhurstite.”
Fry was unmistakeable in town and beloved by former students who called him “Mr. Fry,” and couldn’t have a reunion without inviting their “favourite teacher.”
Town parades in the 1970s and ’80s were often led in summers by him high atop his penny farthing unicycle or in winter dressed as a clown with huge ears.
Fry was also renowned for his sense of humour at work, in school and in public. For a few years he was on the Stephen Leacock Humour Awards committee Orillia.
Fry was also long-time supporter of the NDP.
Jill Fry, who comes back each summer to visit, returned a little earlier “to help mom and dad,” who had a housekeeper at their long-time minimalist, Scandinavian-inspired home they built on the Beach Road.
Allastair Fry said his parents “provided us with a pretty good life. Meaning a lot of different experiences. We travelled all over the place, all over North America, really around the world.
“Both Marion and Cyril were trying to give us an opportunity to see as many things and experience as many things as possible.”
He said his parents loved to travel and one of his fondest childhood memories was the year the family spent in England in teaching exchange in the late 1960s.
“I must have been around seven years old and I’m pretty sure I still remember more about that year than any other year of my life. Just because of so many things we had the opportunity to do and see.”
He said his dad was in to so many things: “He had a pilot’s licence ….”
Cyril Fry’s father was from England and set out for Canada headed for Brandon, Manitoba, and ended up buying a ticket to Brantford.
After graduation from UofT as a chemical engineer Fry and Marion travelled to his homeland and to Europe where he eventually found a job in England for a year before coming to Gravenhurst.
Allastair said: “He had a pretty good 96 years and about four months and then one month that wasn’t so good.”
He said his dad had survived prostate cancer about 15 years ago and some heart problems a decade ago.
But was “pretty chipper up until a couple of weeks ago.”
Fry said his dad “liked to laugh. He enjoyed a good joke” and often shared his sense of humour as a teacher and as an emcee. “He liked a lot of different forms of humour.”
Fry added one thing that “impressed” him was a story about his dad as a teen cycling to Montreal with a friend via Algonquin Park on some roads that were dirt.
“He was always pretty active and enjoyed living in Gravenhurst,” which he adopted and adapted to so well, leaving his mark on many student minds and community endeavours that continue with his legacy of involvement in much of Gravenhurst’s life over 60 years.
Fry is predeceased by two older brothers.
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Brad Sullivan
June 23, 2022 @ 6:58 pm
I miss him already. What a beloved man. Words cannot express my sadness. Deepest condolences to his family.
Sybil Jackson
June 23, 2022 @ 8:45 pm
Thank you Mark for the wonderful tribute to Cyril Fry. I can’t add anything to it but I did have the pleasure of knowing him over the years. He led an amazing life.
Jim Dolmage
June 24, 2022 @ 11:28 am
Seeing that clown picture really captures Cyril. He did nothing by half measures and he did so much in anonymity. It was a joy to engage with his smile that was always a front for wisdom of wide variety. Thanks for the great article and the pictures. News (especially the Gravenhurst variety) was so important to Cyril.
Bill Tinslay
June 24, 2022 @ 7:56 pm
Cyril was special! He was smart witty and loyal. Without his strong support after my fist rather trying year at GHS, I would have been gone. Bon Voyage my friend. He probably would have something dry and witty to say about the fun 96 years here before departing this earth.
Sandy McLennan
June 24, 2022 @ 10:32 pm
I remember the sound of Cyril’s voice, and a story about a street dentist in China promoting themselves above the next in line by having a taller pile of extracted teeth. I’m thinking these recollections would be ok with him. I’m glad to have met him and caught his presence. Thanks for the story.
Sharon Mah-Gin
June 24, 2022 @ 10:54 pm
Mr. Fry was many student’s favourite teacher including mine! When I was Student Council President, he was my teacher advisor and shared so many pearls of wisdom mixed with plenty of dry humour! He attended our 40th anniversary reunion a few years ago before covid and I have managed to visit him annually at his lovely home. Rest in peace Mr. Fry- you have helped so many and left a deep legacy for Gravenhurst and many people’s lives you have touched. Now its time for you have a well deserved rest. Your sharp wit will be greatly missed.
Peter Firth
June 28, 2022 @ 3:10 pm
Sorry to hear about Mr. Fry. I’m so glad I stopped in for a visit the last time I was ‘home.’ We had the usual spirited and witty conversation. Having said that, I would like to share one childhood memory. As a childhood friend and neighbour of Allastair, I recall being invited along to hike the Bruce Trail with their family. I really enjoyed it and to this day I still get ‘out in nature’ every chance I get. I recall one incident on my first hike when we stopped for a snack and I was carelessly discarding my orange peels into the bush. Cyril and Marion gave me a polite, but firm, lesson that we were to “leave no trace!” To this day, whether I’m hiking in the York Region forest close to home, the trails of Whistler B.C. or the ancient ruins of Machu Picchu on vacation… I hear their collective voices to “leave no trace.” Which is ironic, since the legacy left behind by both Cyril and Marion will be quite permanent!
Peter and Verity Hobbs
June 29, 2022 @ 7:55 pm
In 2007, Cyril came all the way down to Toronto from Gravenhurst to help us celebrate our 50th Wedding Anniversary in our Kensington Market condo. We had known him for over 30 years, having met him when we moved to Muskoka in 1976 to start a new TV picture tube manufacturing plant. Initially, we lived in Gravenhurst, and then Bracebridge, and got to know Cyril thanks to many friends we had in common. Then, seven years ago, Alastair kindly drove Cyril and Marion to visit us in Toronto. We had a wonderful time together. It was to be the last time we ever saw him.